I'm writing this with a mild hangover from the crazy night I had clubbing just yesterday(or today, technically). Definitely my craziest so far, but I only have 3 to compare so.....yep.
I like clubbing, but I don't do it often. It is simply too insane and taxing to club often, plus you gotta have the right friends to go clubbing with, and the right mood, I feel. Otherwise, I'm simply too busy with all my commitments in life that I can't spare the time and money to go clubbing. But I like it, and for now, doing it minimally helps me enjoy each time better.
But the point is not on just the experience, but more of what to expect for first-timers. As you can see, I'm no pro, but I can definitely offer some perspective as to what to expect if you have never clubbed before. I find that there is just not many websites or information about clubbing for first-timers, and if there is, they are either outdated or just not comprehensive enough. So hopefully this will be helpful for those looking for more information, ps it's targeted at females.
1. Preparation is very important.
Ok come on, if you are going to club, you wanna make the best out of it, so it is definitely advisable to do some preparations. By that, I mean researching about relevant information on clubs you are planning to hit, planning what you are going to wear, setting limits for yourself and making sure that they are embedded in your brain so that when you are drunk and high af you will subconsciously abide by your limits. Anyway, there is a whole lot to prepare, not just physically but mentally as well. Either way, prepare.
2. Dressing
If you are clubbing in Singapore, I find that most of the popular clubs (Attica, Zouk etc.) have a rather strict dress code. Strict in the sense that you really have to dress according to what they say. To be on the safe side, no slippers or slip-ins, no shorts, and dress like you are going clubbing.
Feel free to wear sneakers as long as they don't look like they were fished out of the trash can. But really, slippers are definitely no no NO! Not even slip-ins, to be safe. Your shoe can be freaking 5 inches (like mine) but if it's a slip-in, better choose another pair of shoes. Most importantly, comfort! You are gonna be mostly standing and jumping the whole night, so shoes are very important (learnt that the hard way T.T)
Shorts are actually allowed, but normally girls who are allowed in with shorts dress really provocatively, showing quite a good amount of skin and just looking.......slutty.......so I mean if you are those girls then yea sure, but if you aren't, let's just stay away from shorts.
Dress like you are going to club. Don't start throwing shit about how you are yourself and you shouldn't have to dress to please others bla bla bla. I mean come on, you really wanna risk being barred entry??? And its not even hard, you can totally dress conservatively as long as you choose the right clothes. My friend freaking wore a long sleeve, and she paired it with a leather skirt, so that was perfectly fine. I wore a black crop top with sleeves but paired it with a high-waist skirt so I was actually covered as well, perfectly fine and comfy to dance in.
If you really have no idea what to wear, it's alright. Just pick out what you will normally wear when you go out with friends, try to fit the criteria first (no shorts, no slippers) and then see if you can get darker colours (black, metallic etc.), and then see if you have more provocative clothes if you are alright with that. And you're all set!
Point is, put in some effort in your dressing, at least to make sure you don't get barred entry, and more so that you can have a good night out looking good, being confident, while being comfy.
3. Things that go on in the club
There are so many little things that goes on rampantly in the club that for someone with minimal clubbing experience, I honestly don't know much. But here's some basic stuff you should probably know.
So apparently, if you see a couple disappearing off, don't bother looking for them unless you are very sure its a bad thing (like it's someone getting lured away to be raped, or the couple is not actually a couple and more like someone holding someone who is gonna puke).
For first-timers, go with the flow that your friends are playing. If you are a first-timer, you probably don't know much, or havent experienced much, so why not let your friends take the lead and show you the ropes? So I was out with a group of girls and when we finished all our free drinks from the ladies night promo and somehow the group of 5 got separated into 2 and 3, and I somehow was with 2 other girls who I have only met for the first time that very night. But thank god for alcohol cos the high totally breaks down barriers and allows you to make friends so easily. So they were actually really experienced clubbers and they started looking for tables with only guys or mostly guys to, obviously, hopefully get a free drink. And boy did that work like a charm. The moment we stepped into the arena my friend already found this pretty good-looking dude who for some reason has his top off and started chatting with him, and just like that, the 3 of us joined the table and got offered drinks like it was nothing (although they definitely cost a bomb). Once we were high again, we left to go to the dance floor and danced like mad before we got led to a table again by some guys and got offered drinks again. So yea, if you are a female, work that to your advantage man.
Although, that totally defies the common saying of never accepting drinks from strangers, what more for females accepting drinks from guys you don't even know. I know, this only hit me once I was sober. But I mean analysing the situation, you approached them, they probably don't think there's a need to drug you if they are looking for a one night stand (not applicable to me though). But oh well, I guess its important that you are with your friends when such things happen, just as long as you aren't alone, or a guy actually purposely approach you with a drink.
As I have mentioned earlier, once the alcohol sets in, it magically breaks down barriers and allows people to make friends like nobody's business. So we actually wanted to hit zouk after drinking at Attica, but when we reached Zouk, it was already full house. So we just approached this group of girls who were sober, but we were freaking drunk by then, and just chatted like we knew each other. Normally I would never have done this, I mean I'm pretty shy with strangers unless there is a need to be outspoken and friendly (like at interviews, work, important social events).
4. Set limits and EMBED them into your brain.
There are a lot of things that goes on when you're drunk, and some you won't want to happen if you were sober. Yes, I'm talking about not just socialising and making friends, there is also the other side, the side that involves more touch, or basically sex. If you are a first-timer, I don't think you are out looking to lose your v-card. Of course, if you are, or are already not a virgin, by all means go ahead, but most probably not right? So YES! Make sure you SET LIMITs (e.g. kiss is as far as it goes, some minor touching, no more than that) and EMBED them into your brain. Drive it so deep in your brain that even when you're drunk and have lost your senses, you will subconsciously hold back and remind yourself when things get a bit too far for your liking.
I cannot stress how important this is. The things is you really cannot predict what will happen, especially when you are drunk, and when most people in the club are also drunk and high. Sometimes things will happen so suddenly that you really can't control it. But if your limits are already embedded in your head, at least you can stop it before things get too far.
5. Get a group of trustworthy friends who knows your limits
Fulfilling number 4 is pointless if you don't have friends that are trustworthy and aware of your limits to save you. So yes, make sure your friends are somewhat reliable, and communicate to them your limits.
For me, the main friend that I went with has done it all already, but when she shares her experiences with me, I accept her actions, but I'll make it known that I will not do some stuff. Anyway! Your reliable friends are probably friends you are quite close with, and they will probably know somewhat, what your limits are anyway. So yes! This is very, very, VERY important!
6. Plan how you will be getting home
If you aren't planning to have a one night stand, plan ahead how you are going home. Will your parents be willing to fetch you? Or are you taking a taxi/grab/uber with your friends? Or alone?
After that, make sure someone knows how you are going home, especially if you plan to go back alone on a taxi/uber/grab. In this case, make sure the driver knows that others know that you are on their car, so that they won't dare to do anything, if unfortunately you meet some psycho driver.
Actually, its best if you go home in groups/pairs. What I did was to sleepover at a friend's house.
So yea, try to fulfill the 6 points above and you should be good to go. It would be helpful if you know your alcohol limit too, like how fast you get drunk. But I mean unless you really drink and try to get drunk, you probably won't know this. For me, my parents like to drink, so we drink often at home too, and that's how I figure my limit.
Also, if you are planning to drink a lot, be prepared to suffer a hangover. The symptoms differ for each person. For me, it was less of the headache, but more of nausea and stomach pain. So if you think you'll get a hangover, make sure you clear your day of all important stuff. Otherwise just control your alcohol intake, too bad.
Finally, just have fun. Be open to new experiences while knowing your limits. Sometimes, when it doesn't seem like it is fun, it may get fun after a moment, or after you've taken a few drinks XD All the best!
*Published a few weeks after the actual date*
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